Give Him A Chance

If you remember in my first post I talked about my search for Lupe Fiasco's debut album "Lupe's Food and Liquor". Well thankfully I was finally able to locate it at For Your Entertainment (FYE). As you expect I immediately threw it in the cd player to listen to tracks that I either didn't remember or never heard before. As I let the album play on I stumbled on a track that struck a cord. "He Say, She Say" hit a nerve that caused me to repeat the song just so I could grasp the meaning of what Lupe was trying to convey. After a few times listening to the song I realized what had me upset... Steve (My nephews father). Before I talk about that subject, let me TRY to explain the song to you.

Basically the song starts off with a mother who is pleading with her child's father to be more active in his son's life. She tells him how the sons declining grades are a direct result of his inactivity in the child's life. Then after the mother speaks, the son does the same rendition of the verse but puts it in first person. Ok I realize I'm not doing this song justice because it is really creative and I would just advise that you stop reading right now and go to Youtube and type in "Lupe- He Say, She Say" go ahead, I'll wait. (singing the Jeopardy waiting song) Ok now listen to it again so you can understand it. (singing the Jeopardy waiting song......again) Alright you see the song, now let me finish my thoughts.

After getting the gist of the song, I understood why I was touched by it. Anyone who knows me knows that my father played a major role in my development. I can't pretend to know what it's like to not have him around. Whenever I was in need of something, he was right over my shoulder making sure I had it. So it perplexes me to see guys blatantly ignore the responsibility of children. In particular, I can't understand how Johnathan's (my nephew) father can continue to ignore his child. I mean sure enough when he's forced he calls up my sister and begs for her to bring "Lil' Juice" over to see him every once in awhile, but he never makes attempts to come and see his son on his own. This in turn puts my sister in a bad position because she wants Johnathan's father to be in his life, but she has to compromise so much in order for that to happen. Now don't get me wrong, Johnathan has a host of men in his life that look out for him as if he is their own, but in my opinion, no one can match the connection that you have with your biological father. I could not fathom the direction my life would've went in without my father. But all around me people are being asked to do the impossible and make it without a father. Shot out to all the successful people who were able to overcome this great feat. But to those of you who succumb to the severe handicap of not having a father around I sympathize with you. I know there isn't anything I can say to change life for you, but here's a ribbon in the sky.

One of the verses in the song goes as follows, "I want you to be a father, I'm your little boy, and you don't even bother, like brother without the 'R' and he's starting to harbor, cool on food for thought, but for you I'm starver... You know the world is out to get me, why don't you give me a chance?" I always attempt to break down the particular meaning of a verse, and then place it as my status on facebook. What I derived from the 2 bars of this verse, "cool (I changed it to "full" on facebook cause I thought it fit better) on food for thought but for you I'm a starver", was that a kid can gain the whole world, but there will always be this hunger like need for a father in his or her life.

In my opinion, every man that walks around with their head held high while they continually ignore the children that they helped to create should be murdered. I know that was pretty harsh but if you have children you don't take care of you don't exist anyway. "It's Just My Thought's, Just What I Was Feeling At The Time"